Mommyhood rocks.

Hi friends. Smile

How was everyone’s weekend?

We’ve really been enjoying life this past week.  Mommy finally got her hair done (it had been WAY overdue), daddy got to hit some golf balls, and “GiGi” (my mom) came to town!

On a not-so good note, we had to go to the pediatrician on Wednesday for Addie’s 2 month well-check.

Two month well-check = Addie having to get her shots!

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She actually did very well.  After the nurse put the shots in her legs, she turned beet-red and let out one good wail.  I was able to immediately scoop her up and love on her, and she quickly calmed down.

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So precious. Red heart

She was also weighed and measured at the appointment.  She is now 22 3/4 inches long (she was 20 inches when she was born) and weighs 8 lbs., 14 oz. (she was 7 lbs., 4.9 oz. at birth).

Unfortunately, she hasn’t put on as much weight as the doctor would like.  So we have had to start supplementing my breast milk with formula.

I’m not thrilled about it … it’s a bit more work, it’s expensive, and I initially felt like a failure because I wasn’t doing my “job” and supplying her with all she needed.  But I know it’s what is best for her.  And I realize that my feelings about being a failure are completely irrational.

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(That’s GiGi feeding her a bottle after I had fed her.)

We can already tell that it’s making a difference and she’s starting to gain more weight.  We go back to the pediatrician on Wednesday for a weight check.  At that point, if she’s doing well, I may be able to cut back and only supplement after every other feeding (vs. every feeding).  I’ll be curious to see what the doctor says!

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Today I wanted to share some of my personal advice on ways to help baby and mommy during the first couple of months.  I have had a lot of friends emailing, texting, and calling me with questions on various baby-related topics.  So I thought I would share some of things I’ve learned here on the blog.

Now obviously this is just my opinion.  I’m certainly not an expert (that’s laughable).  But these things have worked for us, and perhaps they’ll work for some of you! Smile

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Some tips to get through the first couple of months:

1. Don’t give up on swaddling. It may seem like the baby doesn’t like it, but she’s a baby. She doesn’t know what she likes. And it helps! Babies have a startle reflex usually until they’re 12-14 weeks. When they’re sleeping on their backs, they’re likely to startle themselves awake. Swaddling prevents that.

2. If your baby breaks out of the swaddle, try double swaddling. We swaddle with the “moms on call” blanket and then top it with the woombie (she’s only in her diaper for this process, so she doesn’t get overheated). Even then, Addie can occasionally break out of the swaddle. But it doesn’t happen nearly as often.

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(See that little hand?  This was after 8 hours of sleeping through the night.  She eventually got her hand out of the swaddle, so rather than swaddle her back up and put her in her crib, I just let her finish sleeping in the swing.  I don’t think she could get any cuter. Smile with tongue out)

3. Develop some type of routine/schedule. It doesn’t need to be set in stone. But I do believe that babies seem to have some type of internal clock, so setting up a routine can help them to sleep better at night. Addie takes a bath every night before her last feeding. She may not consciously be aware of this routine, but I think somehow subconsciously, it helps her know that nighttime sleeping comes next!

4. If you’re OK with pacifiers, you may need to try a few different brands before finding one your baby likes. Addie didn’t like the Soothies or the Nuks, which a lot of my friends’ babies preferred. Instead, she likes the Avent Freeflow pacifiers.

5. Put the baby down to sleep in her crib before she falls asleep. The first few weeks, I was making sure Addie was completely asleep in my arms before I put her in her crib. And I think for the first couple of weeks, that way was probably fine and perhaps even necessary. But at some point, you probably want your baby to be able to put herself to sleep. Now, I swaddle Addie, put on the white noise, and then bounce with her in my arms for just a minute. As soon as I see that her eyelids are getting a little heavy (but she’s still awake!), I lay her down in her crib. Sometimes I’ll stroke her head, but I won’t pick her back up. She can now put herself to sleep quite easily. (Of course, sometimes the pacifier falls out and she wakes back up. That’s the next thing we need to work out … phasing out the pacifier!)

6. Step AWAY from Google! While I think it’s fine to research some concerns on Google, I think it’s very easy to get carried away and over-research. I’m speaking from experience here. The first couple of weeks Addie was born, I was constantly looking up questions on the internet. Then I would drive myself crazy by finding conflicting information and not knowing which direction to go. Do a little research, pick a direction, and then go with it. If it doesn’t work after a while, then try something new. (And this should go without saying, but if you have a medical concern, ask your pediatrician. Not Dr. Google.)

7. Repeat after me: “This too shall pass.” I’ve already shared that I really struggled emotionally those first few weeks. I think most women do. But I promise it gets easier. Not only does it get easier, but you actually start to enjoy your little one. At the beginning, I couldn’t wait for Addie’s nap time (I’m being honest here, folks). Now, I can’t wait for her to wake up! I love that little girl more than I ever thought possible. So when you’re in the middle of those difficult moments when your baby first comes home, remember that it’s only a short period of time before life gets so much better!

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Hope that advice helps at least one person out there!  Being a mom really is the best thing in the world, but it takes some time to get used to your new life.  So be patient with yourself (and your baby) in the process! Smile

Question for ya …

What did you do this weekend?

If you’re a mom, what advice to you have to share?



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34 Responses to Mommyhood rocks.

  1. kaceyjt

    Thank you so much for the good advice! I’m not a mommy yet, but I know that one day all of your tips and stories will come in handy:) That picture of Addie slipping in her swing is the cutest yet!
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    • notsodomesticated

      Thanks, Kacey! I like that picture a lot, too!

  2. Jana @ Happy Wife Healthy Life

    What a sweet girl miss Addie is! As much as it is not fun for a baby at a well visit, it is so great that the baby is healthy and there for good reasons. :)

    Hang in there with the feedings! I can understand your thoughts, but you are an awesome mom Kristin and are doing exactly what you should – making sure Addie gets the nutrients she needs no matter what!
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    • notsodomesticated

      Thanks, Jana! I appreciate that! :)

  3. Ashley @ My Food N Fitness Diaries

    I second all of this! Great post! xoxo
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    • notsodomesticated

      Thanks, friend. Love ya!

  4. Ali P

    Oh my gosh, you have SUCH a gorgeous girl on your hands. She just gets prettier and prettier every week. Glad she made it through her 2 mo shots. Thanks for the advice, I’m sure we’ll be needing it any week now!

    • notsodomesticated

      Ahh you’re getting SO close!!! I’m so excited for you!! :)

  5. Ashley @ Wishes and Dishes

    Awwww love this post and the sweet pictures of your baby!!
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    • notsodomesticated

      Thanks, Ashley!!

  6. Krista

    I love your honesty : ) Great post!

    • notsodomesticated

      Thanks, Krista … I appreciate that!

  7. Koryn @ High Heels & Healthy Alternatives

    Sounds like great advice all around… especially the part about google. Methinks that can apply to other ares where there is a concern (whether baby related, medical related, pain related, etc)… I would know. Lol :-p
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    • notsodomesticated

      Haha very very true, Koryn!

  8. Sarah @ A Refining Adventure

    She is adorable! If you can see a difference with the formula, I’m sure the doc will be very pleased too! While I’m not currently a mommy, or pregnant, I think the advice you gave is VERY good and VERY applicable. Something to tuck away for when the time is right.

    Thanks for sharing your sweet angel with us!
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    • notsodomesticated

      You’re so sweet. Thank you, Sarah!

  9. Jenn

    Your daughter is absolutely gorgeous! Congratulations, what a beautiful blessing.
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    • notsodomesticated

      Thank you so much, Jenn! :)

  10. Jenna

    I bet you hated having to see Addie get your shots! Hopefully she’ll gain enough weight that you won’t have to keep using the formula! Love all your tips for new moms! Definitely good info for me to keep in mind when my day comes! :)
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    • notsodomesticated

      Thanks, Jenna!! :)

  11. Laurie @ Love, Laugh, Laurie

    That pic of her cuddled up with you at the doctor is way too cute!!
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    • notsodomesticated

      Thanks, Laurie! I just had to get that moment on camera … she was too precious! :)

  12. Kathy

    Sorry that you have to supplement with formula. Hopefully it’s only temporary.

    These are all good tips but I wish it was that easy to get our daughter to sleep! That has definitely been a challenge for us.
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    • notsodomesticated

      I’m still a firm believer in the ‘moms on call’ program. I don’t think we just got lucky with a good sleeper … I really think it’s because I followed the program to a T. Good luck to you, Kathy. I know how frustrating it can be to not get a good night’s sleep!

  13. jade

    Mommy guilt is the worst and the hardest thing to let go of. There are so many pressures in this world like ‘formula is sin, you will harm your child unless you strictly breast feed’ to ‘your baby will never sleep thru the night unless he is on formula’ (I’ve had both and from the same person….). So many are contradictory, it is laughable and down right hurtful. As you know, you must do what is right for you and your family! It never matters what others tell you.

    • notsodomesticated

      Thanks for that comment, Jade. I’m still dealing with a bit of the ‘mommy guilt,’ so I really appreciate your words! :)

  14. nicole

    She is just soo cute! I am still waiting for those 8 straight hours of my daughter sleeping!She just turned 8 weeks and I hope it comes soon! less than 2 weeks before I go back to work! I do the moms on call also, but it seems like she is still waking up…wish me luck!

    • notsodomesticated

      Good luck!!! Are you doing the swaddling + white noise + following the schedule? If so, I wonder why she’s still waking up?? Send me an email if I can be of help in any way … I want you to get that good sleep! ;)

  15. Leslie

    I agree with every.single.thing. And a note of encouragement for you and supplementing with formula. Our Addison wasn’t gaining after 2 weeks of birth and we’ve been supplementing ever since then and while, yes, it’s easy to feel like a failure, it is completely out of your control. You are doing what is best for not only Addie but for YOU. I guarantee you she is happier when she is more full and she will thrive when she puts on weight. I too felt like the biggest failure when I had to start supplementing but honestly, a happy and healthy baby is the ONLY THING that matters in the long run, right? So you gotta do what you gotta do so hang in there! Before we know it, our little ladies will be chowing on SOLIDS, isn’t that crazy to think about? Loving the updates!
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    • notsodomesticated

      So true, Leslie. Thank you for your words of encouragement. When you started supplementing, did you feel like your breast milk supply started going down? I feel like mine has decreased in the last few days. :/ I’m going to start pumping every time after she eats, to see if that helps. But man, it’s a lot of work!

  16. Leslie

    Full disclosure here: I had a breast reduction in high school so my milk production was called into question from the start. The mere fact that I could breast feed at all was a huge blessing so as far as my supply goes, it might have gone down, but I can’t say for sure. I will say that Fenugreek and Blessed Thistle REALLY helps as does chugging water (like 100+oz a day). Also, I know it sounds nutty, but I started eating oatmeal every morning for breakfast and have noticed a total increase when I started doing that. Pumping after the feedings should help too, but that can drive you nuts because all you feel like you’re doing is breast-feeding, supplementing, then pumping all while managing an infant. I hope you start seeing some results soon though!
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    • notsodomesticated

      Thanks for your response. I agree, it’s a lot to try to do. I feel like I’m going a little crazy today!

      I had actually read that drinking too much water could be bad for milk production! So it’s interesting that you found it helpful! I had heard about oatmeal … I had some for breakfast today haha. I need to look into the herbal supplements. I had seen mixed reviews on them, so I hadn’t gotten any, but now I’m thinking I may need to try them!

  17. Avery @ YoungAspirations

    I agree that even not being a mom yet I find these helpful!! :) Loved this post! She really does get cuter by the minute. Starting to see you and your husbands features in her little face!
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