(Almost) Seven months postpartum.

This post has been one I’ve thought about writing for a while now, but I keep putting it off.  I want to share how I’ve been doing personally these last few months since having Addie, but I don’t want this to be a comparison trap.  Each one of us is so uniquely designed by God.  My experience is not necessarily going to be your experience.  But I do want to share because my hope is that I may be an encouragement to at least one pregnant or new mommy out there!

My physical self:

So I am back to my pre-pregnancy weight

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But I’m more thankful to say that I can fit in to my pre-pregnancy clothes. Winking smile  My body is not exactly as it used to be.  Certain areas aren’t as tone, certain areas are a little bigger than before, and certain areas have actually shrunk (I bet the other moms out there can probably guess what I’m talking about!).  But I believe that’s to be expected, and I can honestly say that I am completely at peace with myself.

The process to lose the baby weight was not quick for me.  I had nearly 40 pounds to lose, so I knew it was not going to happen overnight.  After having Addie, the first 25 pounds came off probably within the first month.  But it wasn’t until she was around 5.5-6 months before I lost the remaining 15 pounds.

Food –

While Addie was still nursing, I didn’t count calories or do anything to intentionally lose weight.  Once she stopped (around 3.5 months), I started watching my portion control a little more carefully.  I never went hungry, but I tried to keep myself somewhere around the 1500-1700 calorie range each day.  It was always just a general estimate … I have never counted calories exactly.  So I could have easily been off by a couple hundred calories a day.  And if I was still truly hungry at the end of the day, I ate.  I refuse to starve!  I also enjoyed special occasions and didn’t worry about the extra calories I was consuming.

Exercise –

Regarding exercise, I have to be honest.  I’ve always been someone who goes in waves with exercise.  Since having Addie, I seem to have entered another ‘not working out’ wave.  Addie and I go on walks several times a week, and I try to do push-ups, planks, squats, and lunges around the house a few times a week.  But that’s really all I’m doing right now.  I know I need to work out because it’s good for me.  But I’ve just felt pulled in other directions these last few months.  I think I’m going to sign up for another race soon, to hopefully motivate me to get back on the workout train! Winking smile

So because I wasn’t exercising a lot and I wasn’t significantly cutting calories, the weight came off slowly.  But it did come off.  I lost (on average) about half a pound a week.  Sometimes less, sometimes more.  I actually wasn’t expecting to get back down to my “exact” pre-baby weight.  I figured I’d keep a few pounds on me, and I was honestly OK with that.  But it seems like this must be my “happy weight,” because my body just naturally returned to this size without much effort.

My point in sharing all of this is to encourage other women to treat their bodies with kindness.  Having a baby is an amazing physical act.  Thank God for how He used your body to create a miracle.  And be patient with yourself when it comes to returning to your previous physical self.  Your body is smart.  If you try to make healthy choices, you should see success. 

But I really believe that your physical self after having a baby isn’t nearly as important as your emotional self …

My mental/emotional self:

I’ve been very open with my emotional struggles the first 4-6 weeks after Addison was born.  I always hope that in sharing my struggles, I can somehow help another woman feel that she isn’t alone.  That she isn’t somehow “wrong” or “bad.”  I think every woman has a slightly different postpartum experience.  I have some friends who have been able to flow beautifully in to their new lives as mothers.  I was not one of those women.

As much as I loved Addie when she was born because she was my daughter, I didn’t feel as connected as I had hoped to feel.  I didn’t feel like I really knew her.  Who was this little person who was suddenly consuming every ounce of my energy, my time … my life?  Speaking of “my life,” where did that go?  The life I previously knew was gone.  Completely.  And although I knew prior to having my daughter that my life would be different, no one could prepare me for just how different it would become.

So I cried.  A lot.  And I wondered what I had gotten myself in to. 

But then something beautiful happened.  When Addie was just under 6 weeks old, I felt a sudden shift.  A cloud lifted.  I really believe through the power of prayer (and the simple gift of time), I started feeling like myself again.   And although this new life was still challenging at times, I knew that I was going to be able to do it through God’s strength and grace.

Since that time, things just continue to get better and better.  Every day still has its challenges.  But each day is also more wonderful than the last.  I love that little girl more than I ever imagined possible, and giving selflessly to her is now a gift. 

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It’s not always an easy gift to give.  But I know that the Lord has equipped me for this role as mother, and He is enough for today.

2 Corinthians 12:9 says: But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me.

When I am weak, He is the strength I need.  And He has also given me an amazing support system to help me through the more challenging days.  Having friends and family who love and support us has been an incredibly blessing that I am abundantly thankful for!

And that’s my story!  Smile

Question for ya …

If you have children, what was your postpartum experience like?  Was it different for each child?

On a completely unrelated note … what did everyone do this weekend?

We had a fairly lazy Saturday.  We hung out with Addie, watched a little football, and ate buffalo chicken dip.  Yum!

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** And before I sign off for the day, I want to say Happy Veterans Day.  Thank you thank you thank you to everyone who has selflessly served our country!  You are appreciated!



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31 Responses to (Almost) Seven months postpartum.

  1. Theresa

    I think I was too busy trying to care for two newborns to really think about it at the time, but I realized the other day that I felt similarly – who ARE these babies? I actually find that I’m enjoying this age much more because I am finally starting to find out Who they are. Not just helpless newborns but little people with personalities! Especially when it came to breastfeeding but also in general I remember thinking that I hasn’t expected it to be that difficult! Motherhood is a very humbling experience.
    I have also lost all the baby weight and it took nearly 5 months for me – and that was with running on a regular basis once I was allowed.
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    • notsodomesticated

      Yes, I’m definitely enjoying this age more, as well. She’s so much more fun now that she has a little personality! ;)

  2. Kathy

    Thanks for sharing. I had a hard time emotionally too and it took me longer to feel better about motherhood but it happened! Now I love Emma more than I thought was possible (seriously everything I hear about any baby makes me choke up). I am also back to my pp weight but I’m not nearly as toned or fit as before. That’s something I’m reminding myself to have patience with too – it’ll take time but I’ll get there. I think what you’re doing is plenty as long as you’re satisfied!
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    • notsodomesticated

      I know … I’m a huge sap when it comes to babies now, too!

  3. Ashley @ My Food N Fitness Diaries

    I so appreciate your honesty and for sharing with us! You’re right – every woman and her experience is unique and so different. I’m so glad you’re in a great place right now. You’re an amazing mom! Love you!
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    • notsodomesticated

      Love you too, friend!

  4. Lauren

    Thanks for sharing. I am not a Mother yet, but everyone is always saying “Motherhood is fantastic, it’s a breeze” and I wonder about the struggles, the scheduling, the learning what this new person wants when they can’t look at you and say get me this. From the photos I see it looks as though you have a daughter that adores you and appreciates all you have sacrificed and when she gets old enough she will tell you that :-)
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    • notsodomesticated

      Thank you so much, Lauren. And even if she never tells me that she appreciates it, I know my God does! ;)

  5. Krista

    Great post! I’m sure if more women were honest they would say the same thing…I think a lot of women say it’s the best thing ever because that is what they think is expected. I felt more like you with my first but only for a short time. I think it had more to do with having been married for 10 years first and just not really knowing what to expect. My kids are 12 and 9 now and there are still days when I just need a little time to clear my head!! The baby needs are just replaced with school work, sports, transportation….but it really is more fun as they get older : ) I really respect your honesty and please know that you are not the only woman to ever feel like this at first!!!

    • notsodomesticated

      Thank you for sharing, Krista! Like you said, it’s hard to know what to expect!

  6. Krista

    Oh, and you look amazing by the way!!

  7. Nicole

    I actually thought about this when I took my daughter’s baby book out. After I had my daughter I guess I was a little resentful. Me and my husband both like our alone time, and I def did not get any! So I felt as if my husband was’t allowed either! So now that she is older,much more fun, has more personality, and my best friend, I can confidently and honestly write good things in that book. If I had done it as everything was happening, it may not have been so nice! hahaha! Great post…as usual!

    • notsodomesticated

      Haha thanks for your honesty, Nicole. I definitely understand!! ;)

  8. jennifer

    You look fantastic, Kristen!
    And I can relate with the hormonal moodiness…it has taken me three babies to realize that’s what made me feel so awful the first few weeks postpartum! This time, when the first two weeks seemed unbearably up and down, I realized it would go away soon and I’d feel ‘normal’.

    And now, seven weeks out, I feel pretty normal. And I’ve been running a little bit, which feels great.

    And last night, I got 7 hours of sleep! In a row! For the first time in who knows how long…that goes a long way to feeling good!
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    • notsodomesticated

      Yay for 7 hours of sleep in a row! I hope last night was just as good haha! ;)

  9. Annette@FitnessPerks

    This is a great post!! And you look awesome :)

    I think it’s fantastic how honest & open you’ve been about the whole experience, and can be really helpful to new moms! Last week was a lot harder than the first week for me (go figure), but we’re slowly getting into a groove, and it feels good!
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    • notsodomesticated

      I think the first week is easier for most because all the baby does is sleep. When he or she “wakes up,” suddenly life becomes much different! :) But I’m glad to hear you’re getting into the groove. It will just keep getting better!

  10. Karen

    Important question! Where are your boots from, and what brand??

    I had a lot of trouble when my daughter was born physically and emotionally. I felt like a huge failure bc she was born 5 weeks early and breast feeding didn’t work out for us. Why couldn’t my body keep her safe and nourished for 40 weeks? Why couldn’t my body feed her after she was born? I felt bad about my body and its failures and also did not like the way I looked post baby. I was exhausted and felt ugly and like a bad mother. It was awful. I didn’t get the euphoric new mommy feeling I had read about. The good news is I was able to forgive myself for having her early bc I didn’t do anything wrong and she was/is healthy. She’s thriving on formula and I am happy to report that I know feel pretty euphoric everyday when I hang out with her! Those first few weeks/months are HARD! Once she started sleeping longer and smiling everything was so much better. I think as women we are trying to do it all and never give ourselves a break.

    • notsodomesticated

      I agree with EVERYTHING you said. Thank you so much for sharing!!

      And my boots are actually by Ivanka Trump and I got them on Amazon! I have twig legs, so it’s always been very hard for me to find boots that weren’t too big around the calf for me. I finally did a little research online and discovered these. I love them! :)

  11. Marjorie

    Great post! I am still working to lose my baby weight 14 months postpartum. I am about 10 pounds away. But I was also on the heavier end of my weight spectrum when I got pregnant. So I want to get back in the healthy range for my height.

    Emotionally, it has been the toughest, but most wonderful year of my life. I had a lot of anxiety the first few months, mostly due to breastfeeding issues. I gradually switched to formula feeding, and it was a lifesaver. But things are getting better every day. Sleeping well has made the biggest difference! I function so much better with sleep, and we are in a good pattern right now.

    I love your honesty and openness to share.
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    • notsodomesticated

      Thank you so much for sharing, Marjorie. I am so with you on your experience. I struggled with breastfeeding as well and finally had to wave the white flag and use formula after 3.5 months. You feel like a failure, but I know that’s not the truth! I was formula fed and turned out just fine! ;) And yes, sleep was HUGE for me. It made me feel like a human again!!

  12. Jana @ Happy Wife Healthy Life

    I love you sweet friend! Your honesty and ability to share is such a wonderful gift that God has given to you. Believe it or not, but you are an incredible role model to women and reaching out and sharing your true experiences could honesty help someone else in a similar situation. Addie is one lucky little girl to have you as her mama! :)
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    • notsodomesticated

      I love you, too, Jana! Your words mean more than you know! Thank you SO much!

  13. Leslie

    First of all, way to go mama for getting back to pre-pregnancy weight! I feel like I have a long way to go, most due to the fact that we couldn’t breastfeed exclusively. But our treadmill arrived today, so here goes nothing!

    Also, I want you to know you are not alone. The first 3 weeks of motherhood for me were dicey. I never wanted to admit it but while I did love my baby, I definitely wasn’t as crazy about her as I thought I would be. So many say “it was love at first sight” but for me it was this unknown person who turned our lives inside out!

    I don’t think it was until I was at peace with God’s will to stay home with Addison and release my old “work self” that I came to realize this is where I need to be and I am content with that and, how awesome is it to see our little ladies grow and develop in front of our eyes?

    Thanks for sharing!
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  15. Emily @ Perfection Isn't Happy

    You look amazing! Thank you for sharing your story. As much as I love kids and really want to be a mom, I am worried about the emotional part of becoming a mom. My husband and I are starting to talk about trying more and more often, but that part scares me, especially because I already have anxiety.
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    • notsodomesticated

      Just know that if millions of other women (many of whom also struggle with anxiety) can do it, you can, too. But I think being prepared and knowing that the beginning may be really challenging is a good thing! Then you won’t be so hard on yourself when you are struggling. But I PROMISE it gets better and better and better!! People wouldn’t have multiple children otherwise hahah! :)

  16. Koryn @ High Heels & Healthy Alternatives

    CONGRATS on reaching the pre-preggo weight! You look GREAT! I absolutely LOVE how real and honest you are! It’s SO helpful, as I’ll be a new mom in 3 to 4 months!!! :) I completely agree with your rationale too.. I was never a big calorie counter because you’re right – our bodies are very smart! I’m pretty on target as far as weight gain, so I’m hoping for a similar transition back to my “slim/happy weight” after I have my little Ethan. Either way, I trust God and I’m not going to stress or starve! ;-) Thanks for this post – you are by far one of my FAVE bloggers!
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    • notsodomesticated

      Aww Koryn, thank you. You are so darn sweet. How have you been feeling with the pregnancy? I hope all is well!!

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